Ehi – Newari Tradition of Marrying Virgin Girl With a Bel Fruit (Wood Apple)

In the Newar community, there is a unique tradition of marrying their girl child to the bel fruit (wood apple). One must be familiar with the term Ehi. The marriage between a virgin Newari girl and bel fruit is held before the girl attains puberty.

This ensures that the girl acquires active and healthy reproductive powers. The group ehi function is held every year at triveni ghat Panauti during Akshya titiya. Hundreds of Newar girls from and around Panauti participate in this function.

A girl holding a bel fruit (wood apple)
Here the bel fruit is the bridegroom, representative of the eternal bachelor (Lord Kumar, son of Lord Shiva ). In this marriage ceremony, known as Ihi in Newari, the bel fruit must look rich and ripe and must not be damaged in any kind. If by chance the fruit turns out to be a damaged one, it is believed that the girl or the bride will be destined to spend the rest of her life with an ugly looking unfaithful husband after her real marriage.
Group of Newar Girls doing ehi - marrying with a bel fruit
However the most significant aspect of the ‘Bel Marriage’ is that once married to Lord Kumar, the woman will remain pure and chaste and even if her husband dies after the marriage she would not be considered a widow, the case in point being that she is already married to the Lord.

 

Mata Tirtha Aunshi – Mother’s Day

“Mata Tirtha Aunshi”, translated as “Mother Pilgrimage fortnight”, falls in the month of Baishak dark fortnight (April/may). This festival falls in the dark moon’s time, which is why this called “Mata Tirtha Aunshi” derived from words: “Mata” meaning mother; “Tirtha” meaning pilgrimage.

Matatirtha Temple and the Waterspout

This festival is observed in the commemoration and respect of the mother, which is celebrated by worshiping and gifting living mother. On this day the children worship with tikasagun (egg and bara), sweets, fruits, gifts etc. Mother’s Day is a celebration honoring mothers and celebrating motherhood, maternal bonds and the influence of mothers in society.

Worshipping mother

Those whose mother is passed away they take bath and remember by praying for them in temple. Going to Mata Tirtha Pilgrimage, located towards the eastern side Kathmandu valley at Mata TirthaVillage development committee’s periphery, is another tradition common in Nepal. Previously, people especially from Newar communities and people living in the valley used to celebrate it. Now, this festival is being celebrated by widespread communities.

Statue of Mother in Mata Tirtha

There is a legend regarding this pilgrimage site. In ancient times Lord Krishna’s mother Devakiwondered out her house to sight-see. She visited many places and delayed her return to her house. Lord Krishna was very concerned because of her disappearance. So, he set out to find her. After a long and arduous search he found her. When he reached “Mata Tirtha Kunda“, he happened to see his mother taking bath there, in the spouts of that pond. Lord Krishna was ecstatic when he found her and narrated all of the tragedies that had befallen him in her absence. Mother Devaki said to lord Krishna, “Oh! Son Krishna let then, this place be the pious rendezvous for children to meet their departed mothers”. So, according to legends, since then this place has become a holy pilgrimage site, where people come to pay respect to their deceased mothers. Legend also holds that once a girl saw the image of her deceased mother inside the pond and she jumped into the pond to join her mother in death. Till this day there is a small pond fenced by the iron bars, where it is believed that the above mentioned tragedy occurred

International history and traditions

In most countries, Mother’s Day is a recent observance derived from the holiday as it has evolved in America. When it was adopted by other countries and cultures, it was given different meanings, associated to different events (religious, historical or legendary), and celebrated on a different date or dates.
Some countries already had existing celebrations honoring motherhood, and their celebrations have adopted several external characteristics from the US holiday, like giving carnations and other presents to your own mother.
The extent of the celebrations varies greatly. In some countries, it is potentially offensive to one’s mother not to mark Mother’s Day. In others, it is a little-known festival celebrated mainly by immigrants, or covered by the media as a taste of foreign culture